diff --git a/.sessions/Journal.vim b/.sessions/Journal.vim index b9b934dc..5dfcc98f 100644 --- a/.sessions/Journal.vim +++ b/.sessions/Journal.vim @@ -14,12 +14,14 @@ else set shortmess=aoO endif badd +1 ~/Documents/Dane\'s\ Vault/Journal/2025_07_30.md -badd +9 ~/Documents/Dane\'s\ Vault/Writing/Journal//JRNL-20250904-135850.md +badd +10 ~/Documents/Dane\'s\ Vault/Writing/Journal//JRNL-20250904-135850.md +badd +96 ~/Documents/Dane\'s\ Vault/Writing/Journal//JRNL-20251003-174601.md +badd +0 journal_config.txt argglobal %argdel -edit ~/Documents/Dane\'s\ Vault/Writing/Journal//JRNL-20250904-135850.md +edit journal_config.txt argglobal -balt ~/Documents/Dane\'s\ Vault/Journal/2025_07_30.md +balt ~/Documents/Dane\'s\ Vault/Writing/Journal//JRNL-20251003-174601.md setlocal foldmethod=manual setlocal foldexpr=0 setlocal foldmarker={{{,}}} @@ -30,12 +32,12 @@ setlocal foldnestmax=20 setlocal foldenable silent! normal! zE let &fdl = &fdl -let s:l = 9 - ((1 * winheight(0) + 30) / 60) +let s:l = 13 - ((12 * winheight(0) + 33) / 66) if s:l < 1 | let s:l = 1 | endif keepjumps exe s:l normal! zt -keepjumps 9 -normal! 0 +keepjumps 13 +normal! 018| tabnext 1 if exists('s:wipebuf') && len(win_findbuf(s:wipebuf)) == 0 && getbufvar(s:wipebuf, '&buftype') isnot# 'terminal' silent exe 'bwipe ' . s:wipebuf diff --git a/.sessions/nvim_config.vim b/.sessions/nvim_config.vim index 34a4189d..ba26bceb 100644 --- a/.sessions/nvim_config.vim +++ b/.sessions/nvim_config.vim @@ -17,9 +17,10 @@ badd +44 custom/configs/lspconfig.lua badd +1 custom/taskwarrior.lua badd +11 custom/init.lua badd +203 ~/.config/nvim/lua/custom/plugins.lua +badd +117 custom/journal.lua argglobal %argdel -edit ~/.config/nvim/lua/custom/plugins.lua +edit custom/journal.lua let s:save_splitbelow = &splitbelow let s:save_splitright = &splitright set splitbelow splitright @@ -36,10 +37,10 @@ set winminheight=0 set winheight=1 set winminwidth=0 set winwidth=1 -exe 'vert 1resize ' . ((&columns * 95 + 95) / 190) -exe 'vert 2resize ' . ((&columns * 94 + 95) / 190) +exe 'vert 1resize ' . ((&columns * 87 + 87) / 174) +exe 'vert 2resize ' . ((&columns * 86 + 87) / 174) argglobal -balt custom/configs/lspconfig.lua +balt ~/.config/nvim/lua/custom/plugins.lua setlocal foldmethod=manual setlocal foldexpr=v:lua.vim.treesitter.foldexpr() setlocal foldmarker={{{,}}} @@ -50,12 +51,12 @@ setlocal foldnestmax=20 setlocal foldenable silent! normal! zE let &fdl = &fdl -let s:l = 203 - ((53 * winheight(0) + 30) / 60) +let s:l = 3 - ((2 * winheight(0) + 32) / 64) if s:l < 1 | let s:l = 1 | endif keepjumps exe s:l normal! zt -keepjumps 203 -normal! 016| +keepjumps 3 +normal! 0 wincmd w argglobal if bufexists(fnamemodify("custom/taskwarrior.lua", ":p")) | buffer custom/taskwarrior.lua | else | edit custom/taskwarrior.lua | endif @@ -73,15 +74,15 @@ setlocal foldnestmax=20 setlocal foldenable silent! normal! zE let &fdl = &fdl -let s:l = 280 - ((43 * winheight(0) + 30) / 60) +let s:l = 280 - ((0 * winheight(0) + 32) / 64) if s:l < 1 | let s:l = 1 | endif keepjumps exe s:l normal! zt keepjumps 280 normal! 09| wincmd w -exe 'vert 1resize ' . ((&columns * 95 + 95) / 190) -exe 'vert 2resize ' . ((&columns * 94 + 95) / 190) +exe 'vert 1resize ' . ((&columns * 87 + 87) / 174) +exe 'vert 2resize ' . ((&columns * 86 + 87) / 174) tabnext 1 if exists('s:wipebuf') && len(win_findbuf(s:wipebuf)) == 0 && getbufvar(s:wipebuf, '&buftype') isnot# 'terminal' silent exe 'bwipe ' . s:wipebuf diff --git a/Writing/Journal/JRNL-20251003-174601.md b/Writing/Journal/JRNL-20251003-174601.md new file mode 100644 index 00000000..9debcac7 --- /dev/null +++ b/Writing/Journal/JRNL-20251003-174601.md @@ -0,0 +1,146 @@ +--- +id: JRNL-20251003-174601 +title: Friday, October 03, 2025 - 05:46 PM +type: journal +created: 2025-10-03T21:46:01Z +modified: 2025-10-03T21:46:01Z +tags: [journal] +--- + +# Friday, October 03, 2025 - 05:46 PM + +Hi Journal, it has been a minute. I've had a lot of updates +since last time, but I've been a slacker when it comes to +actually writing them. But today, I really need to write out +what has been on my mind. I've been weighed down with some +thoughts these past couple of days that are really affecting +me. + +I met a girl named Matilda on Hinge. We've been on four +dates, and I can tell that she really likes me so far. She +is really, really nice to me and frankly has reset the bar +for me on what I expect from a partner. Matilda works in +human resources for UPMC, does not drive, and lives +Downtown. She does corporate HR, which basically means she +does HR for other HR departments, and special one-off +departments that don't have their own HR department. +Apparently, hospitals have their own dedicated HR units, so +shes above them, in a way. + +Matilda is just over five feet tall, has blonde +just-past-shoulder length hair, and gorgeous sky blue eyes. +She's really quite intelligent from what I've gotten to know +of her so far, and is incredibly kind. She smiles at babies, +dogs, holds doors open for people, and is generally so +friendly. She really inspires me in that way. She treats +people with zero biases and reliable warmth. + +Her family is from Sewickley. Her dad is some sort of +designer, who not too long ago had his company bought and +not long after was laid off. He is between jobs right now +and not having a lot of luck finding work given his age. Her +mom happens to work for the company that laid him off. She's +got a background in government affairs, but is working in a +finance role. She has a brother named Addison who does +computer science work for a company called Grant Street +Group. Addison lives in Brooklyn, and is a couple years +older than Matilda. + +One thing I really don't know about Matilda right now is +about her hobbies. The last I really dug into them was on +Hinge with her. She listed her hobbies as exploring PGH, +reading, trying new recipes, and traveling. Do we have any +of those in common..? Not particularly, but we do share some +passion cooking and reading. She likes to read a lot of +memoirs, she has said. She also likes to bike. + +There are some things about Matilda that I really like. +First, she's inspiring with how friendly she is. She, just +by being herself, makes me think that I'm too cold to the +world and too defensive. She makes me feel really good +about myself, is always excited to be around, and doesn't +judge me. She's been very reciprocal in just about every +case so far. She refuses to let me pay for some dates, +bought our coffees on the first date (and refused to let me +pay!), likes to be the big spoon *and* the little spoon. +She's a big cuddler and I absolutely love that. There is +some serious physical chemistry. + +One thing I really like about Matilda is she is curious +about the world and people. I feel like I can talk to her +about anything. She is extremely approachable, genuinely +interested in me, easy to talk to. + +There are also some things about Matilda that really +intimidate me going forward. For one, I really want somebody +to tinker with, and I don't think she's ever going to fill +that need. She does not drive, and while I don't think +that's a forever problem, it's not exactly conducive to my +biggest hobby being working on my cars. I really don't want +to give that up, to be honest, but also I don't want to +force a hobby like that on someone. That's reason enough I +think it might not really work out. + +But, here's another problem. I want to be a dad one day. I +asked Matilda if she ever would want kids, and she opened up +to me about a couple of concerns she actually has about +having kids. Matilda has a DNA translocation between +chromosomes 2 and 8 that places her in a much higher +likelihood of having a miscarriage, or passing defects on to +kids. Also, Matilda had a cleft palate when she was born, +which though corrected, required several surgeries at UPMC +Children's Hospital. She credits that as one of her big +drivers to working at UPMC. But, she could also pass that +cleft palate onto a kid. Between these two genetic issues, +having kids for her is actually a super challenging issue +before even considering any external factors like climate +change or the current political climate. There are +mitigating factors, like IVF or an egg donor, or even +CRISPR, but that would be so much for her to go through if +she didn't 100% want a kid, too. She said she's had previous +relationships end over this topic, and honestly teared up +some while talking about it. + +Matilda and I have had four dates so far, which is an +insanely short time to even begin to say you know someone. +She makes me feel so good, but these are big issues. Am I +going to fast trying to figure all these things out? Part of +me feels like the answer is yes, but also part of me feels +like if these are dealbreakers I need to kill things now. + +Which is another thing that makes me feel crazy and +horrible. Last night, I spent the night at Matilda's. We +didn't have sex, but we stopped just short. We were +definitely both into it (see physical chemistry), but the +emotions are weighing on me very heavily. I gave her one of +my hoodies to wear if she likes, which I think she really +does. It makes me happy to see her so happy. But part of me +is wondering if I'm settling and compromising on what I +might actually need in my lifetime. + +I don't know how to go forward from here. Do I really know +her enough to know? How do I go forward without really +hurting her? Is it too late? I don't know. I know she agrees +that we barely know each other yet. Is it immoral to keep +seeing her? I do like her, but this is different from the +plan I had in my head. I also am worried of something more +insidious, where subconsciously I'm neglecting her future +pain for my short term enjoyment. That makes me feel beyond +fucked up. I couldn't end things with Amber previously, and +I don't want this to be the same problem. I definitely need +to talk to my therapist Rachel about this next time I see +her. + +I'll see Sam and Eric tonight at Applebee's to discuss +planning Sam's bachelor party, and maybe we'll have some +time to talk about this. + +Writing about this has made me feel a bit better. Also, +listening to *Year of the Banana* has helped, too. + +Last but not least, I gave Matt his STI wheels back today. I +overheard his dad might be going into the ER today just as +we were finishing swapping wheels. I should check on him +soon. + + diff --git a/Writing/Journal/compiled_journal.pdf b/Writing/Journal/compiled_journal.pdf index aa2d1f9c..7b994957 100644 Binary files a/Writing/Journal/compiled_journal.pdf and b/Writing/Journal/compiled_journal.pdf differ diff --git a/Writing/Journal/journal_config.txt b/Writing/Journal/journal_config.txt index 83e5c993..e4c60554 100644 --- a/Writing/Journal/journal_config.txt +++ b/Writing/Journal/journal_config.txt @@ -1,6 +1,14 @@ -# Journal Config +# Journal Compilation Config +# Edit this file to customize your journal PDF output + +# Pandoc options (one per line, without leading dashes) pdf-engine=xelatex -V geometry:margin=1.5in -V fontsize=12pt +V geometry:margin=1in +V fontsize=11pt toc +toc-depth=2 + +# Title page info V title=My Journal +V author=Dane +V date=October 2025